No Strings Attached!

I was talking with a male friend of mine about no strings attached sexual relationships. He asked me as a girl, is it ok to have one? I replied, “of course it is, as long as you are aware of what type of fling it is and what your partner’s expectations are!”

So obviously we got onto the conversation about it. Can women have sex like men? It is one of those taboo questions if you think about it. Guys will always say no, and that if a woman has sex like a man does, she is a slut. Why is that? Why must we be titled some kind of label for doing the same as them?

It isn’t always so straightforward though. It’s often assumed that men think of sex as just a physical act with ‘no strings’ more often than women do. But when it comes down to it, it can actually be confusing for both sexes. You see, after sex, our bodies are rushing with post-orgasmic chemicals – main one being Oxytocin which tells our brain that we want to bond emotionally as well as physically, meaning one of you may want to cuddle after the huddle. So, with this in mind, is no strings attached sex ever ok?

 

The Friend with Benefits:
Do not believe what you see/read/hear people. Without a doubt, one side will always fall for the other eventually. This type of NSA sex will go one way or another. It can either turn into a great relationship or someone gets hurt. In my experience and from having FB’s, it usually just goes sour anyway. No FB can ever really turn into a real buddy.

The Tinder Hook Up:
You both know what it is. You met online, conversation got flirty quite instantly, you are watsapp messaging and next thing you know, you are on a night out with your friends drunk and you end up at this person’s apartment. Great first meet. I doubt there will be any snuggles after. Clean and go people, clean up and go!

The Rebound:
I think this one is usually more beneficial for the guy. You know, a girl just got out of a relationship and she needs revenge sex to feel like she’s getting back at her ex (when really, he couldn’t give two shit’s and already started sleeping with someone a week after they broke up.) Guys, if you are looking for casual sex, this could be the one for you. Give her your shoulder if she needs to cry, your ears if she wants you to listen, and then your dick for when she is ready to suck. But, you need to be careful with this one that she doesn’t mislead your wanting of sex and ‘being there for her’ as more and a potential relationship. Make it clear that you are there to help her release her sexual demons!

The Drunk Partygoer:
It’s 2am, you are wasted in a bar and the guy/girl you like is giving you the look. You know, basically eye fucking you. So take the eye fucking to the next level to real fucking. Whisper sweet words into his/her ear and get them home with you. Whatever happens, the next morning make sure you don’t leave without a goodbye. Even if you had beer goggles on and are completely not interested, there is nothing worse than waking up with a hangover and rejection all in one.

The Friend of a Friend:
So it’s a friend’s birthday party and there is a whole group of you out and you spot someone in the group you like and you go over and flirt. You completely hit it off and have both had a bit to drink so what seem like harmless fun at the time could get awkward at the breakfast table the next morning. Don’t avoid eye contact and try to make jokes. Always keep that situation on a good level because don’t forget, you have mutual friends and you will both be embarrassed.

 So, here’s the down low. All of you reading this can probably relate to one (or more) of these situations. I know I can. If you are in it for sex, and just sex then good for you, but be careful that Oxytocin doesn’t creep in because once you lean in for that one snuggle, it all goes down the shitter. As guys are bad at messaging, make sure you message the girl. We don’t need phone calls and hearts, but a text here or there to assure us it wasn’t just meaningless can go a long way. If you can tell that the other side wants more and you don’t, just be honest. Honesty is the best policy.

 

Good luck guys and girls! If anyone has any good stories for me about NSA relationships, email me at blogdoll21@gmail.com

 Little Miss V..xx